When I over-analyze things, I always go back to what I know about Biopsychology and Social Psychology, at least in the first ten minutes. For example, when I am in love or feel a strong connection with one person, I tend to think that it is a function of oxytoxin and vasopressin in my brain and how this person can create that effect. These neurotransmitters, as I recall, can only last 1.8 to 2.5 years, which means after this period, the neurotransmitter for commitment should kick in or the relationship will take its toll (the itch). Or when I ask why I am almost perennially happy, almost never depressed, I think about norepinephrine and thank I have good stock.
So why do I consider these things? Because I consider science (hard and soft) and technology in keeping and maintaining my relationships. For example, there are things that I really don't understand about men. I tried to decode them and realize that they are in fact very simple. This is not without basis. Their brains are lateralized (their corpus callosum, that which connects the right and the left brain, is thinner than women) which is one of the reasons why they can't multitask, and by knowing this, I know it will be very stressful for them to have a conversation while watching TV. If you know things like these, you know when is the best time to talk to them about things that matter to you without appearing to confrontational.
Aside from knowing that men's brain maps show similar patterns when they just had marijuana and when they see a very beautiful lady (Reader's Digest article) and that there are certain colors that have subtle effects on their brain, which can calm or make them aggressive depending on what you want them to feel, it is important that you know how they react to technology too.
To illustrate: I went to a Globe hub and asked which is more popular, Super Duo (unlimited calls) or Super Txt (unlimited text) and they said it's the latter. I tried an experiment and realized that in the past 3 months that I subscribed to Super Duo, most of my friends aren't into picking up calls. However, even given this apprehension to picking up calls, among my friends, the guys pick up the phone more than the gals (and they also call more than text). Is it because calls are more intrusive and demanding and we don't want to feel like we are being demanded to give attention right away? Is it because through texting, one can control what time to reply and can think first of what to say to whatever that message/call was for? Or is it more sociological than psychological--that we have this culture of texting than calling, so much that we are the text capital of the world?
With this experience, I subscribed to Super Txt to text my female friends and use 235, 236, 232 Globe functions to make cheaper calls to male friends.
But funny thing is, they reply to FB messages or emails faster than through their mobile phone so if you know this, you can choose what media to use in helping maintaining your relationships. At this point, I stop over-analyzing. The synapses in my brain can't handle it anymore.
So why do I consider these things? Because I consider science (hard and soft) and technology in keeping and maintaining my relationships. For example, there are things that I really don't understand about men. I tried to decode them and realize that they are in fact very simple. This is not without basis. Their brains are lateralized (their corpus callosum, that which connects the right and the left brain, is thinner than women) which is one of the reasons why they can't multitask, and by knowing this, I know it will be very stressful for them to have a conversation while watching TV. If you know things like these, you know when is the best time to talk to them about things that matter to you without appearing to confrontational.
Aside from knowing that men's brain maps show similar patterns when they just had marijuana and when they see a very beautiful lady (Reader's Digest article) and that there are certain colors that have subtle effects on their brain, which can calm or make them aggressive depending on what you want them to feel, it is important that you know how they react to technology too.
To illustrate: I went to a Globe hub and asked which is more popular, Super Duo (unlimited calls) or Super Txt (unlimited text) and they said it's the latter. I tried an experiment and realized that in the past 3 months that I subscribed to Super Duo, most of my friends aren't into picking up calls. However, even given this apprehension to picking up calls, among my friends, the guys pick up the phone more than the gals (and they also call more than text). Is it because calls are more intrusive and demanding and we don't want to feel like we are being demanded to give attention right away? Is it because through texting, one can control what time to reply and can think first of what to say to whatever that message/call was for? Or is it more sociological than psychological--that we have this culture of texting than calling, so much that we are the text capital of the world?
With this experience, I subscribed to Super Txt to text my female friends and use 235, 236, 232 Globe functions to make cheaper calls to male friends.
But funny thing is, they reply to FB messages or emails faster than through their mobile phone so if you know this, you can choose what media to use in helping maintaining your relationships. At this point, I stop over-analyzing. The synapses in my brain can't handle it anymore.
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